Death is a conversation that we can choose to have, or not. Covid certainly has brought up the topic for us lately. As we slip into the season where the dark is overcoming the light, if we are tuned into nature, we easily see the world around us prepare for autumn and winter. We find the leaves dying and falling all around us, and the colors of spring and summer start to fade.

From the outbreath of summer towards the deep inbreath of winter, we can experience depression, sadness and isolation. It takes courage to wake up to another day. It takes courage to sit with the fact that we are actively dying every moment. It is not easy to write your last will and testament or plan for “the inevitable” either. But these are essential activities of the human journey and need to be thoughtfully addressed. For me, I’m only now starting to recognize the value in engaging in difficult subject matters of the heart.

Sitting with those who are dying or have recently passed has been an opportunity for me to reflect on my own mortality and the “dead weight” I have been carrying around in life. Taking the time to analyze our lives in a holistic, big-picture way, gives us the space to allow these parts of our life that no longer serve us to “pass on” at their proper time.

Loss and grief can be ugly and messy – and pop up when we least expect. How can we make the time for that? How can we identify grief when it comes, and allow it to wash over us as welcomed as slipping into a hot spring? I’ve recently lost a few dear friends and feel intimately drawn to inquire more about how I show up for myself and others in this process without losing myself.

The ability to be vulnerable allows for a greater capacity for the heart and vulnerability can be deeply transformative. We are in tender times and aren’t always aware of what others are holding in their heart.  Being able to hold space for grief and vulnerability is a big part of what humans can do for one another, especially lately. This is a tenement to how I move forth into my work in the world that’s not confined to an office anymore. Dropping into love in the bigger sense of the word is how I want to be moving forward.

How can we be less heavy in death conversations and more consciously engaged in them, and ultimately feel lighter in our own lives? I’m not afraid to go deep with you on these topics.
Please give me a call. – Blair